Self care and self help 

What can prevent good self-care……?

  • Stressful events or life events such as a change in job or a bereavement. Also changes such as deployment can impact on your ability to look after yourself.
  • Certain types of culture or background. The armed forces community may make you think that self-care is self-indulgent especially if a family member is struggling themselves.
  • Chronic conditions or severe mental illness can impact on our self-care, in these instances it’s about finding something that can help but not make you feel worse. The idea of self-care is something that makes you feel better about yourself.
  • Influence of others – significant people around you may make you think that self-care is not important or a valuable tool in your overall health. Again this may be from certain people around you.

But what can we gain from self-care?

Looking after yourself is vital for your physical and mental health

Self-care can improve your physical health;

  • Self-care will make you feel better, and the better you feel, the better you will be in all areas of your life
  • You will become more attune to your body and know more easily what it needs

Self-care can improve your mental health and self-esteem;

  • Any activity that makes you feel more relaxed can improve your mood and reduce anxiety
  • Treating yourself with kindness makes you look upon yourself more kindly
  • Self-care can help you manage ongoing issues and maybe stop them from getting worse
  • A study has shown that people with higher self-esteem deal with setbacks better and are more likely to achieve their goals

           (Self-Compassion Increases Self-Improvement Motivation Juliana G. BreinesSerena Chen, 2012)

Self-care can improve relationships;

  • You may have an increased connection with your partner and a greater understanding of what the relationship may need. This is especially true if partners are making transitions between coming home and leaving on deployment
  • You will have a greater relationship with yourself which is so important
  • Doing self-care with your partner could have other benefits aside from you just feeling better e.g. greater intimacy
  • Anything that has a positive impact on your life will improve the lives of others around you.


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